Poised to Present

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In a recent article in Rise Magazine I was asked, ‘When faced with the prospect of presenting to a group of people, what are one or two things we can do to alleviate that fear?”

In my experience nerves or fear come from a lack of preparation (fear of forgetting what you are going to say) and a focus on yourself and your issues.

So firstly you have to acknowledge that the most interesting people to watch are those truly being themselves, you don’t have to present like someone else or how you think you should, it’s most engaging to present like you!

It helps to shift the focus to be on your information and do all that you can and then some to get ready.

When you have put the time in, researched, thought about your topic, written it out using the words that you naturally speak and then practised out loud, you get to a point where you have done all you can do. Then you just have to “give it up” and give it your best. If you have spent the time really thinking and preparing what to say then trust yourself and your intuition in the moment to read the room/audience and take your presentation where it needs to go.

Dr Louise Mahler in her book Resonate, talks about a mantra she uses for confidence. Looking at her audience before she speaks, she says, “I love you, I love you, I love you”.

It reminds your subconscious that you’re here for a reason, to deliver a message, whatever it is, that will allow your audience to achieve or understand something they didn’t know before, it reminds you that you are there with a purpose: to benefit this group.

It has to be an indisputable mantra though, it can’t be, “It’s going to be good, it’s going to be good” because your unconscious mind might say, “well it wasn’t last time!”

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I use, “Let me be a blessing to this audience.”

So combined with having put in the work it helps to clarify my intent to bring something of value or interest to my audience and shifts the focus from relying on it being “all about me” and my personality.

Prepare, then take your time, slow down, breathe, anchor yourself then give it your best shot!

Speak from the heart… And like just about everything the more you do it the easier it gets!

Lisa McAskill / Creative Director at  www.lisamcaskill.com.au

 

Esteem Toward Women

This video was the result of being asked to capture the thoughts of Girl Guides in 2015 for International Day of the Girl.

Girl Guides have a unique distinction in that they founded themselves’ – Robert Baden-Powell.

Girl Guides was really one of the first “feminist” movements. It began just over a hundred years in 1909 when a group of girls “gate-crashed” the first Boy Scout rally in London dressed as boys because they wanted to be able to participate in all the activities the boys were enjoying. They couldn’t be ignored and Girl Guides was officially founded a year later.

Our interviews revealed that even though in Australia today girls enjoy virtually the same opportunities as boys they are still feeling as if they are “second rate” to boys and men, particularly the teenage girls.

The younger girls all said, “we are equal” and thought there were no gender differences apart from sporting abilities but the girls we interviewed that were 12 years and older all intimated from their experiences that gender inequality is a learned behaviour.

The girls spoke of being labelled bossy if they took initiative or showed leadership skills at school or were branded as being “just a woman” by boys in their peer group.

What was inspiring though was the girls’ undaunted commitment to changing the prejudice and in what I would call an intuitive and positively feminine way.

Girl Guides is a great example of a volunteer movement of women providing a nurturing environment for girls to step up and practice their leadership skills, empowering and esteeming girls into becoming women capable of creating the positive change they want to see in the world.

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Connectivity Creates Community

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Connectivity is much more than we think and I can confidently say that it is through our human connectivity that we are able to create social change.

People often think consciousness is different to nature, but of course it is consciousness that is driving all of creation. I call this level of connective reality Communication Networks of Consciousness. Just like every thing in nature, our consciousness also has finite systems that operate on the principle of pathways and connectivity. The cosmos is in fact a sea of communication (common-union).

Clarity of purpose while in common-union, creates. It is at this level of participation that true coherence can and will occur. Coherence is like the glue of creation, which needs a consistency of logical interconnection plus an overall sense or understanding between other operating parts. It may sound complicated in relation to community, but in fact that is where we need to understand the nature of coherence most of all. Before we can really co-create we have to have coherence and before coherence we have to have connectivity.

There are many levels of connectivity between humans, but it is only when there is a collective impulse of true purpose alive in a community that the creative process will activate and start moving forward. Each and every part of the whole must be in alignment with the desired outcome and each member must be fully present to his or her role in that outcome. The collective vision must always be the driver for the whole group.

It is your ATTENTION and INTENTION that creates UNITY within you and around you.

Here are some key points to ask your self about being on purpose and connecting in community… take the time to write down these questions and your answers for further reference.

  • Do I Foster Cordial Collaboration?
  • Where Do I Promote Compassion?
  • Do I Connect Heart To Heart
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  • Who do I know That Inspires Purpose?
  • Am I Creating Something Of Value?
  • Can I Focus On What Works?
  • Where Can I Create Opportunity?
  • Do I Understand Social Synergy Systems?
  • Is My Life Full Of Encouragement And Nourishment?
  • Where Can I Contribute More Than Money?
  • Am I Creating A Cohesive Community
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  • Have I Made A Promise To Myself That I Want To Keep?

So, when you are faced with a moment of conflict with in a group or even within your self, you can connect to your vision and these questions – to see why the conflict has arisen. It doesn’t mean the conflict will disappear immediately, but rather you will see that the conflict may actually be a creative conflict and a necessary part of your evolution. It is from this point of choice that your life and vision can start to evolve into a reality.

Creative conflict is often a re-aligning mechanism and in the process of correcting and transforming the creative conflict, you actually become the new reality.

In regards to how community can work together, this concept is leading edge. A community’s true function is unity and activity and I believe the science of community is connectivity and coherence with each other.

A group’s success is determined by it’s willingness and ability to correct and transform as a collective, which ultimately brings people together as a cohesive community.

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Elizabeth Ellames 

www.livingattributes.com  www.realdealseminars.com

Balancing repetition and variety for Well-being

We seem to intrinsically know that a balance between repetition and variety in our life is good for us.

There are individual differences in how much repetition and routine is tolerable and for how long, but generally speaking we don’t enjoy the feeling of becoming “stuck in a rut”. And there is a good biological basis for it. You see neurologically and occupationally speaking we humans are wired to thrive with a delicious blend and balance of activities that offer us repetition (eg routine) and novelty (ie variety) of experience.

Repetition allows us to become skilful and efficient at what we do, consolidating the brain maps for our actions. Repetition and routines lead to competence and mastery and give us confidence in what we are doing.

Variety of experience on the other hand introduces novelty to our nervous system. This has a beneficial role to play in our well being too – for it invites adaptive growth. The dynamic demands of novel situations can help us to forge new neuronal connections as we harness our creative problem-solving and strategic capabilities.

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If we become aware that we are feeling bored or underwhelmed in areas of our life – it is a nudge to bring in some degree of change, mixing up the routine, changing scene or environment and upping the variety of challenge in some way.

My tips at such times include:-

  • Consider if you want or need incremental change/variety or large scale change/variety and proceed accordingly
  • For example it may be sufficient to set an intention to be open to variety – and notice the many opportunities for flexibility and creative approaches that are present in your usual environments and activities of daily life
  • Think of ways to add value in what you are already doing and what you are contributing – the service oriented creativity and collaborations involved will be likely to re-engage you.
  • Stay connected with your friends and family – this will always bring opportunities for variety in social routine as well as dynamic opportunities for contributing service from the heart.
  • Connecting with a cause or charity you support can also bring opportunities to serve something bigger than self in a variety of creative ways.
  • Consider how you can extend your mastery and competence. This may involve a change in environment, job or hobbies, taking up a professional development opportunity at work, finding an advanced master/mentor, or becoming a mentor.
  • And most importantly, consider the alignment between what you do most of in life and your sense of purpose in life. Time is a precious resource and knowing we are using it in alignment with why we are here and who we are is fundamental to having a cohesive blend of consolidation/repetition and creativity/variety that will support our own and collective wellbeing.

Next time I will focus on the flip-side of feeling stuck in a rut and how to attend to wellbeing then.

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Cherie Rowett – Creative Director www.heartchoiceenterprises.com